I know if you are reading this, you are naturally spiritual or at least know you are more than your body, and you understand on some level that the Universe is unlimited. That’s true, and our work in these bodies is to bring that unlimited potential into a physical, limited form.

So if you want to just feel joy and bliss, go ahead and meditate and focus on limitlessness. If you don’t want any tangible results in your life, that works. I did it for awhile and while I loved my meditations, my life got harder, not easier! 

I’m not saying to never do this, just beware if you always do it.

So what are some signs you are not respecting limits enough?

• You tend to have fantasy relationships, or you or your partner feel disconnected from one another
• You visualize and affirm your dreams and still they haven’t come true
• You don’t feel connected to your body
• You are chronically late or in debt
• You push yourself to the point of exhaustion
• You frequently feel embarrassed

How can you tell whether you’re in a healthy place of honoring limitation or if you’re just in fear and contraction?

• When we honor limitation, there is a feeling of enthusiasm and empowerment. You feel centered, in command and “on track” towards your goal.
• When we are in fear and focusing on limits in an unhealthy way, there is a feeling of contraction and disconnection from Source. We focus on why things cannot happen instead of how they can. 

In the physical world, limitations exist. To not honor that is to be to some degree in fantasy or denial. It can also be disrespectful to other people, but ultimately you are the one who pays for it.

But here is the interesting part, and here is where the joy comes in…

As soon as we embrace limitation, we suddenly become unlimited in our 3-D lives. But the tricky part is we have to fully say OK to limitation first.

It’s like letting go of a relationship to allow it to come back stronger. If we let go with an ulterior motive, we are still hanging on and it won’t work.

So we have to fully say, “Ok, I’ll pay bills, I’ll be on time, I’ll communicate and keep my word, I’ll take care of my body, I’ll be practical about my goals” etc. etc. and to some extent surrender our fantasies.

And then BOOM– suddenly we get so lined up with our desires that they start to come our way and we feel absolutely unlimited.

As long as we resist getting grounded and being practical, we can never be unified because we are always fighting something in our minds. And as long as we are fighting and dividing ourselves– part of us feeling the bliss of limitlessness and part of us hating the fact that we have bodies or bills or human emotions to deal with– we have too much “friction” in the way of our success.

Here is another secret: Limits aren’t really as limited as we might think. Everything in the physical world vibrates and is ultimately made of space. Our bodies, for example, are mostly water and so actually very changeable.

When we consider “getting in our bodies,” many of us feel like we have to stuff our big, wild selves into a container and we understandably rebel! But instead we can imagine we are just coming in for a landing, that our spiritual being starts to vibrate in the cells of our body which begin to radiate with our joy.

Then we can imagine that our physical body and actions start to resonate naturally with who we really are. I feel this a lot in my yoga practice or when I’m in nature, but you can also just imagine it. Try it and see!

Meanwhile if you’d like to read more on this topic and how to cultivate your energy in your body and empower your life, check out this article I published a couple years ago, “Do You Leak Energy?”

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I have certainly been there. And sometimes it’s just timing.

But not always. In order to change our circumstances, my teacher taught me we need to be able to have 2 things:

1. Where we are right now
2. Where we are wanting to go

This means we need to fully accept the truth in the moment, as well as the potential situation we are looking to create.

What most of us do instead most of the time falls into one of 2 categories:

1. Whining
2. Fantasizing

Oh dear! But yes it’s true.

When we are either whining or fantasizing, we are basically saying, “Where I am right now is not ok.” And when we aren’t ok with where we are, we’re not present.

When we’re not present, we can’t get anywhere! Have you ever tried it?

I can’t count how many times I’ve driven around while talking on the phone or to the person next to me, and missed my exit. Now, on the freeway it’s easy to turn around, but what about your big dreams in life?

How long do you want to wait for them to happen? How many detours do you want to take along the way?

I remember once having a client who spent an hour convincing me she was alone, and that no one cared about her. I spent an hour sitting across from her thinking, “Hmmm, I’m a person who cares, who is here with her now, and she even paid me– but she’s not getting it.” She just kept telling her story and left feeling about the same as she started.

By contrast, I have clients that share with me major breakthroughs just months after one session. How do they do it?

They show up willing to change. They go into our work fully open to where they are at now, and fully open to their potential.

Now we all need to be heard, but often our stories are not the real “us.” They’re just our egos fighting for dear life, trying to convince us that they’re the most important thing on earth.

And they’re not. I do celebrate though when the stories start to fight, because they wouldn’t be fighting if you weren’t on the verge of a breakthrough.

When I notice this, I know to look deeper, so if I don’t directly answer your question, that’s why. I’m not in service to your ego, but instead to you.

How do you discover the real you? Feel into your body. Ask yourself a question and feel your body’s response.

Even if it doesn’t make sense, the good news is no one can argue with it. And when you explore it, it will take you deeper, into breakthrough.

You can also use easy-to-learn energy tools, like we’ll be doing in the Intuitive Training Program. They are particularly helpful in clearing energy, and in distinguishing your truth from the “noise” around you.

Meanwhile, try this:

Consider a situation you want to change and ask yourself, with regards to that situation:

1. How much can I accept where I am right now?
2. How much can I fully accept being where I want to go?

If neither one is less than 100%, decide to shift it today, even a little. Ask yourself what is needed and take the first step.

1). You feel what other people feel. Ever feel sad or mad or anxious and don’t know why, then realize someone close to you feels that way? Or you feel fine then you go into rush hour traffic and you get stressed?

2). You think of someone then they call, or you call someone and they say “I was just thinking of you,” or “You called at the perfect time.” I have a running joke with my friends when they say this (it happens a lot!). I say, “I must be psychic.”

3). Relationships confuse you. You have trouble figuring out what’s “your stuff” and what’s the other person’s. Or someone says or does one thing, but you get an entirely different message. You’re not crazy, you’re psychic!!

4). You need regular alone time. If you start to lose track of your own thoughts, feelings and needs when you’re with others, you don’t need to join a monastary. ; ) You probably just need to learn how to manage your sensitivity.

5). You get creative ideas and revelations “out of nowhere”. I used to wake up with poems and songs in my head. Now, projects and insights come to me in the shower or when I’m washing dishes. They are like “downloads” or “a-ha”s– they feel bigger than the thoughts of my everyday mind.

Psychic abilities can be both a gift and a challenge, if we don’t know how to manage them. The first step is knowing what’s happening, and finding your center in the middle of it.

You don’t have to be confused or alone, but you may need support and practices to help you ground and make the most of your gifts. As things intensify on the planet, we sensitive folks will need to stay grounded more than ever!

If you’re intrigued, I invite you to check out the upcoming Intuitive Training Program. This program is customized to those attending and I’d be happy to have a conversation to see if this is a good fit for you. Request information.

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Want to use this article in your E-Zine or Web Site? You can, as long as you use this complete tag with it: Intuitive Healer Ann O’Brien publishes the “Flowering Sol” email newsletter to help you blossom into your light. If you’re ready to open up your intuition and creative power to fulfill your dream life, get your free gifts at www.FloweringSol.com.

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I am grateful though, for all the joy I have felt in my life, because if I didn’t know what it felt like, I would never know when I was off-track. I remember years back when I didn’t know the difference.

Then, I thought feeling heavy and stuck was my “normal” state of being. So much so, that I didn’t even think my energy was heavy and stuck. I only see it now in pictures and when I remember it. Little did I know!

I am also grateful that I never get off track for too long, because I also know what to do to shift it. And, I have enough practice and support to make it easy to do those things, and not just think about them.

It’s hard to learn and sustain new habits when no one is there to hold us accountable, to cheer us on, and to practice with. We are human and we want connection. Without it, we give up more easily.

More and more, we are meant to learn and grow together. I would never have trusted my intuition if I didn’t have a supportive space to practice, and people telling me over and over, “You’re right on,” when I gave a reading.

Now, I don’t need that, but I did at first.

In my early 20′s I devoted 2 hours a day to spiritual practice, and I became vegan and severely restricted my diet. After 6 months of that, I got sick and gave it all up for awhile. After months of tofu, brown rice and chanting, I took antibiotics and ate a bagel and cream cheese and it seemed like the best thing on earth.

Why was I so strict in the first place?

Well, on some level I knew I had gifts and I wanted to develop them. On the other hand, I did it because I was pissed off.

I was fed up with feeling everyone else’s stuff and not hearing my own inner voice. I wanted to feel my freedom and I wanted to feel like my life was mine.

Somehow, I knew that the more I could do that, the better I could love and be loved. Deep down, my desire for love made me take on other people’s stuff. But becuase I didn’t like the result, I pushed away my true desire with all the “stuff”.

All that would make anyone sick!

I don’t want you to have to go through these things.

When we pick up feelings or thoughts from other people, we can never process them but only store them. It makes us crazy when we try, especially when we don’t know we’re doing it (which is most of the time).

All that time I felt heavy and stuck was because I was trying to solve problems and heal feelings that weren’t mine. The more I tried, the more stuck I got, and the worse I felt about myself.

My desire for love got me in and my desire for love got me out of that mess. Oh, love is a powerful thing!

Once I sought out support and training, it all turned around. Once I practiced simple daily exercises (like games of imagination, basically) to clear and circulate my energy it was like I could see straight again.

I’d love to support you…

If you feel like you feel things for other people, if you’re struggling to hear and trust your inner voice, or if you feel alone with your spirituality and need a spark for your inner light, please reach out and let’s talk about the “Psychic Self Care” Program.

I am accepting a small group and setting up the structure for this program now, and we’ll begin soon. Contact me to request a spot (no obligation) and let’s see if this is a good fit for everyone!

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The martial art I did was Aikido, which is considered a “soft” martial art from Japan. Rather than blocking punches and kicking back when attacked, we learned to “catch” and then blend with our partner’s energy, and then move the energy in such a way that kept everyone safe.

Our teachers explained that the punch could represent intimacy just as easily as it could agression. It represented life force energy coming our way, and our innate responses taught us a lot about ourselves.

I cannot count how many times I heard our Sensei say, “Catch it.” And instead, how often we students would dart as the puch came, or push and shove to change the situation. How rarely we could actually be with the intense energy our partners brought us. It was an amazing practice and training for life!

I realize now how human that is. Not only when someone yells at us, but also (maybe even more) when someone is really loving us, it can be scary to stay present and connected.

It can even be scary to stay connected to our own bliss, our own joy. When life starts getting really good, how often do we put the brakes on, consciously or not believing the good can’t last.

Have you ever judged someone (or even yourself) as being unvailable? Unsuited for relationship? Like maybe something is wrong with them (or you)?

When we don’t seem to have the love we want, often that’s the first place we go. And then the real reason we don’t have the love we desire is because we aren’t centered in ourselves.

When we judge ourselves, we abandon ourselves and then no one else can find us let alone love us as we really are. When we judge others, we give our power away. In either case, when we judge we become un-grounded and vulnerable.

And then guess what? It’s actually not safe to open when we’re in that kind of state.

So the common “fight or flight” pattern in relationships actually comes from a very healthy, wise place of self-protection. Somewhere, deep down, we know we’d be better off getting centered first before we open.

And so those of you who feel like you keep “messing up” and you better find out what’s wrong with you and fix it, guess again! What if you could just be you and find love there? There is hope…

Let me tell you something very personal. 10 years ago I went to my teacher for a reading. “Why can’t I get a relationship to work?” I asked.

He laughed at me and said, “You’re asking the wrong questions. You’re asking what’s wrong with you, and what you don’t see is that you have a PhD and you’re trying to get a job washing dishes. No one will hire you because they won’t believe you’ll stay.”

I went home that night and had pizza and beer and went numb. Oh, and I was 20 minutes late for the reading! Here I was going to see the person that I (at the time) most respected in the world, but there was so much energy around my receiving that information that I couldn’t seem to get there! Then, I kept trying to “wash dishes” for years until I really got it! Now, I am laughing at myself.

For years I put up walls to love, even to fully showing up in my life, not because I was insensitive, incapable, or inadequate. It was the opposite.

I felt so fully and had so much energy that I was afraid no one would be able to match me. I was afraid to open to energy that didn’t support me, but if I believed no one could match me that was all I got– people who didn’t. And so it wasn’t safe to open. Genuinely.

The most powerful lesson I learned in Aikido is that receiving is a choice. It is not something that just “happens” to us. And the more we learn to ground and center our energy, the more we can open and the more bliss we can feel.

If you’d like to learn how, I can show you. If you are ready to stop asking “What’s wrong with me?”, ready to stop blaming others, ready to call your power back so you can open and feel and live fully, join us Monday for our free call, “Discover and Release Your Hidden Blocks to Love.”

I invite you to say YES now while the energy is flowing and fresh. Sign up now and your transformation begins!

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Want to use this article in your E-Zine or Web Site? You can, as long as you use this complete tag with it: Intuitive Healer Ann O’Brien publishes the “Flowering Sol” email newsletter to help you blossom into your light. If you’re ready to open up your intuition and creative power to fulfill your dream life, get your free gifts at www.FloweringSol.com.

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copyright 2011 Ann O’Brien- All Rights Reserved.