CAN LOVE & MONEY CO-EXIST?
Submitted by admin on June 18, 2011 - 2:53 pm
Can love and money co-exist? According to Universal law they must, but according to our culture they often seem at odds.I’m not talking about using money as a substitute for love, which our culture does condone.
What would it be like if love and money arose from the same wellspring of wholeness and abundance that is Universal nature, that is each of our true natures? To live lives of mutual generosity and joyous gifting?
In order to have this truth reflected in our living experience, we need 2 things: 1). To own our power, and 2). To let go of control. And culturally, we have clung tight to control while disowning our power.
If we’ve ever experienced messages of “not enough” (love, money or resources), especially in our prenatal experience or early childhood, it’s in our nervous systems. We may name it “fight or flight,” and it may affect our ability to sustain healthy intimate relationships.
It’s in our DNA and ancestral lineage. If we believe in past lives, it’s in our soul’s histories too.
Recently I taught a class in LA called “Making Peace with Money.” I wanted to call it “Making Love with Money,” but I was unsure what the reaction might be so I changed it. But “Making Love with Money” is really what I meant. 
As an entrepreneur, I have fun with money. I enjoy manifesting. I have had my ups and downs but I always seem to have what I need.
At one point last winter I had the idea it’d be fun to write down a list of things I’d like, just to invite them in. Suddenly money turned up everywhere– even a $20 bill I found on the street– in just the amounts necessary for the top items on my list!
But through my relationships I’ve learned that not everyone thinks about money this way! And I’ve had to face my own fears of being alone if I live differently… the fear that I had to choose between money and love.
I grew up with a provider father and a housewife mother. In my early childhood, my father was set on success and he kept getting job promotions that required us to move.
My mother went along with this for awhile, but after a few moves said “No.” So my father moved and we stayed put, and he drove 2 hours each way to see us on weekends for 3 years until they got divorced.
So early on, I got the message that love and money don’t go together. I thought if he was doing it to provide for me, maybe it was my fault my parents weren’t happy. Not to mention, my father was really an artistic and sensitive soul who felt confined in his job.
So over the years, I dated lots of artistic and sensitive men who could not or would not provide. I found one who could provide but got mad about it, since he too was making money through a job he hated.
Around this time I realized I did want to be provided for. And then it turned into needing to be provided for, to heal my early wound around all this, to “prove” that love and money could go together, and to validate my worth.
Of course, it was me who had disowned my worth to begin with, but meanwhile I wondered why I wasn’t manifesting what I consciously desired and felt worthy of. And I realized love and money had to go together in me before I could expect my world to reflect that.
And now I get it. It requires a total paradigm shift– not simply better salaries, more harmony between couples or even more self-love.
Here are some of the pictures our culture has accepted as truth:
- Whoever has the money gets to control.
- Money has to come through hard work and struggle.
- Money= power.
It may look as if those with money have had all the control, but look from another angle and see that many of them have also felt controlled– even in the ways they’ve controlled themselves. The suit and tie that chokes at the throat goes beyond the physical, for many in high-power jobs.
And nothing wrong with suits or business! It’s just that many people’s approach to work, money and success has been very push-and-shove– including of ourselves. Stress, self-denial and feeling used-up have been the name of the game. Today, I see this in men and women at all income levels.
If we believe money equals power, then it can also be scary to spend or lose money for those who do not fully own their power within. By contrast, I had a friend who was divorcing and losing his house, and he was ok with it, explaining that everything he had came from within and could be recreated.
I think when we own our power we have the money we need, but the money does not cause the power.
I found my friend’s attitude so refreshing! But it’s not the norm.
Recently I went into a bank and saw a flyer with headlines saying, “Control,” “More Control”. That’s what they are selling people on!
No wonder the hippies have pushed away money. No wonder trust fund kids and trophy wives have rejected all the strings attached to money.
It’s just that money itself has never been the problem. With compassion, I see that those with money have used it to control because they themselves have felt bound by control. Because they wanted love and connection and that was the only way they knew to get it. At some level, they thought if their loved ones also felt control everyone would be connected and close and never leave.
Ha ha ha. I guess we all know that can backfire.
And rejecting the money doesn’t work. Those who want to separate from it and judge rich people are perpetuating the very separation they are judging. And missing the point.
Money is really a form of energy. Love is also an energy and it includes everything.
So what if everyone could give the gifts they have in their heart and in turn have what they need? I am not talking about hippie utopia. I believe in being conscious and in including money in our lives, not running from it.
I have even advised clients to get a Monopoly game and “play” with the money to create a new relationship with it. Money itself is innocent.
What if we all disconnected from control and realigned our nervous systems to accept a feeling of safety within? Once we feel safe within, we can give and receive freely and it’s easy to trust others and the Universe.
There are many techniques and healing modalities to help accomplish this, and one we all have unlimited access to is our breath. I love simply breathing down the spine all the way to the tailbone, and exhaling the breath back up the spine and out the head.
Love and money both involve circulation. When we block our natural tendencies to open and share, both love and money come to a halt in our lives. And when one is flowing, the other can too.
I knew a wealthy older man who had physical circulation problems. Yes, he had money, but he was a control freak and he hoarded both money and love. His family found him difficult but they “needed” him.
In my opinion, our experience of abundance has nothing to do with how hard we work, or with our status or degrees. It has everything to do with how much energy we choose to circulate, and lots of energy can circulate very easily if we open and allow it.
When relationship problems come up around money, it’s rarely about the money. Usually, it’s a disagreement about how much energy is ok to circulate. Often there are blocks in one or both person’s natural flow.
This is also a key to improving our sex lives, but I’ll save this for another article.
It can be scary to open up to more when our culture, friends and family have withheld. We can feel like we’ll die from loneliness– even if those people are not currently, physically with us. And if we find more energy-flow to feel more natural, we might rebel and feel terrified at the idea of constriction.
People do suffer incredibly from loneliness and constriction, and they are actually the same thing. But when we recognize that we’re all just wanting to give and receive love, and we commit to this for ourselves, things shift.
When I am in love, not necessarily with a person but when I simply live with an overflowing heart, money follows. People get inspired, and the lie I’ve held that money and love don’t go together is dissolved. Nonexistent.
And I’m excited to see more and more people living and creating this way. I think it is the wave of the future! Are you with me?
TRY THIS:
Next time you spend money, imagine 10 times the amount coming back to you from the Universe. When you receive money, imagine 10 times the amount you receive going back from the Universe to the giver. Just for fun.. I’d love to hear how it goes!
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ARE YOU SETTLING?
Submitted by admin on May 18, 2011 - 4:55 pm
Have you ever said yes when you meant no? I know I have! Let me tell you a story about a scorpion…
On 9/9/09 I had agreed to go on a date. Did I really want to go on the date? No.
A friend had set me up and as soon as I saw the guy’s picture, I thought, “Not interested.” But then she explained: he was successful, creative, kind, not a player, and he practiced yoga. I decided I “should” go on this date and so told him yes.
The night before, I couldn’t sleep. I really didn’t want to go. Nothing felt “bad” about him, I just don’t like going against my truth and I didn’t want to waste his time and let him down later. So at about 2 am, I sent him an email and cancelled the date.
Immediately, I felt a rush of energy. It felt powerful, exciting and at the same time light and happy. I looked over at the funky stone wall of my Topanga canyon apartment and saw something black crawling out of a hole.
At first glance I thought it was a spider, but it kept getting longer, and longer… until I saw the scorpion tail. I ran to get the almond butter jar I had set aside (labeled: “spider relocation project”) and tried to trap it so I could take it outside, but I accidentally killed it. Once I caught my breath I realized that was probably for the best.
I knew this Scorpion was a powerful omen about claiming my power and not settling. So I put it on my altar with the Buddha and angel.
I felt amazing and stayed up til 4 am, bagging up things to take to Goodwill. I slept until noon and was in a sort of altered-bliss state all the next day, too.
When I told my friend the story, she said immediately “Well that means a Scorpio is coming for you!”
Great, I thought! But where is he? Months went by and no sign of the promised Scorpion.
Nearly a year later, I met a new man and found out his sign. I tried not to jump to conclusions when he said, “Scorpio.” But when our 2nd date was on 9-9-10, I took note.
That night, he took me to Zozobra, an annual Santa Fe ritual where they burn a gigantic puppet representing “old man gloom and doom”. People send in divorce documents, family belongings, and other possessions symbolizing things they want to release to make room for the new– and these are burned as part of the puppet while the crowd screams and cheers.
The date, his sign, and the theme of cleansing and renewal was all just too synchronistic! So when I saw he was obviously really excited to get to know me, I said, “I don’t want to freak you out, but can I tell you a story?” And so I told him about the scorpion.
We shared a wonderful 9 months together, during which we both grew and expanded in such beautiful ways. I am very grateful.
So many times I have settled. Not only in relationships, but throughout my life.
And I’m told I am very committed to my path and my truth, but I feel in my heart the pain of having settled. I feel the pain for me and for those involved. Because I know now that settling doesn’t just hurt me, it hurts other people too.
One thing that pushes my buttons the most is an energy that says “Who do you think you are?” The fear that if I live my truth and own my power and value, that I’ll be punished and alone.
It’s been a wound since before this lifetime, and so at times when given the opportunity to stretch I’ve hung back, because it seemed like no one else was stretching and so I had to stop if I wanted love.
What I’ve realized is that serves no one. Not me, because I’ve felt stifled, not those I could serve by shining bright, not those I’ve tried to love or make comfortable– because that love and comfort was based on a lie.
And saying yes to a lie then saying no later can pose more problems than just saying no in the first place. Imagine saying yes to a job then realizing only after people were counting on you that the pay is not enough and you can’t do it. Or saying yes to a marriage then everyone going through the pain of divorce.
I have seen this in many, many people, especially women. I have seen it make their partners crazy when they know something is off, but because the women don’t think it’s ok to share “negative” emotions they torture them with their withholding. All the while thinking they’re being “nice.”
One of my clients had been ambivalent about her relationship for years, but didn’t want to leave because she didn’t want to hurt him. Now, he’s the one pulling away and she’s shocked. I pointed out how all these years she’s been half-out have hurt him. People feel our truth whether we’re willing to voice it or not.
I have seen this in some parents, thinking they need to sacrifice everything for their families, then have nothing left to give. Parents who are unable to model healthy self-care actually HURT their children, and make more stress for themselves when the children develop health (physical, mental or emotional) issues. Often, these children end up taking on adult responsibilities– and suffer for it for years– when their parents fearfully choose not to be responsible.
So an easier way, perhaps, is to just love ourselves from the beginning, all the time. To breathe deep, find our courage and trust that this is best for everyone.
I have seen that when we are really at peace with this, no one says “Who do you think you are?” Partners actually PREFER hearing what’s wrong in the moment; it builds trust and is much easier to fix.
Calm, happy and healthy parents naturally have calm, happy and healthy children.
And when we truly love ourselves, we aren’t greedy, so there’s no need to worry that we’re asking too much. I find that people who desire things they’ll never use, fixate on looking “perfect,” or need constant love and reassurance are actually trying to make up for deep insecurities.
But living an abundant life, being radiant, and sharing love are our birthrights. If you are not enjoying these things, what are you settling for and why? Let me know if I can help.
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DO YOU HEAL MEN?
Submitted by admin on April 24, 2011 - 10:53 pm
If there were a 12-step program for this I could join. I can see it now… “Hi, I’m Ann O’Brien, and I heal men.”
For years I did it all the time, but didn’t know I was doing it. Then I figured it out, and I got pissed off.
It started with my Dad, then boyfriends, guy friends, guys I was interested in, guys I had subtle flirtations with, etc. I felt responsible for them and I took on their stuff unconsciously. I have always been a natural healer and entertainer, and that was my knee-jerk way of coping when the world around me didn’t feel good.
It was my story, and for a long time it was a “bad” story. Deep down, beneath my conscious awareness, I realized the power of this gift, but didn’t know what to do with it or if that would even be safe.
So I rejected it in myself and pushed away those who wanted it, but I didn’t even know I was rejecting something. I just felt frustrated a lot.
At the same time, I deep down wanted to give this gift and have it be received, but because I had pushed it down I didn’t even understand my own pain. I had no model for this.
At some point I figured out that I had been healing men all my life, and that I was unconsciously perpetuating and attracting these situations. It was uncomfortable but I was grateful for all my spiritual awareness finally, and I tried to stop doing it.
I learned techniques to help me. Even my spiritual teacher pointed out how this was happening, and suggested ways I could stop it.
Have you ever heard the saying that our greatest challenges in life are actually our greatest gifts? Or the suggestion to pay attention to our natural tendencies, because that is where our power is?
I have heard it but for so long didn’t connect the dots.
The problem was not what I was doing but the fact that I did it unconsciously, without acceptance, understanding, artistry and respect. And so it controlled me and caused problems for others– until I learned what I now understand.
Over the years I have been involved in many feminist or women’s groups, and I’m increasingly seeing a shift in power on the planet from men to women. And no one can argue that women have been historically wounded.
But guess what? Men have been wounded too.
When I look at the masculine structures on the planet that are crumbling, I see tremendous pain in those who are losing their long-held illusion of power and control. I listen to new-agey type conversations about empowering the Divine feminine and I feel sad to notice the masculine getting overlooked, blamed or judged.
When I help my female clients with relationships, I so often hear them complaining about men. They express things like “I’m fine; it’s my husband that needs to change.” Oh, if it were only that simple!
I hear women express superiority to men and then share how much they are yearning for a good man to come sweep them off their feet. Hmmm. And I SO want to help these women!
In reaction to the old model of being passive and helpless, many women have taken the feminist stance of feigning “independence” and embracing our power. Now of course we have power, but how are we using it?
Feminine power misused is no better than masculine power misused.
What will heal this whole thing is to co-create harmony, to open up a conversation so we can understand and support each other. For us all to recognize our unique gifts and power so we can stop projecting and start celebrating and sharing.
Just because masculine energy has dominated our politics, religions, economics and planet in general for so long does not mean this masculine energy has been healthy, happy and balanced. Far from it. If it were it would not have hurt so many and it would not be collapsing now.
So while I absolutely support the rise of the feminine, my vision is to see it rise in a balanced way, in harmony with the Divine masculine. Not just being ok with the more feminine men who don’t threaten us, but actually embracing masculine energy in men, in the world and in ourselves.
Now that we are starting to accept our feminine power, let’s use it to invite the masculine to step into his power too. Women, this is an art you can cultivate and if you don’t know how, I can help you.
It’s what most women– and men– deeply want. It’s a deep deep wound in the world.
This is not about sleeping around, not necessarily about sex at all. It is about being authentic in a way that brings out the best in men. Sometimes it helps him feel good, and even when it doesn’t do so immediately, it offers him space to choose and is ultimately a gift to all.
So much creativity and love get unleashed when the masculine and feminine unite in harmony and mutual respect. I realize many have feared this, and I have too.
But I see deeper now, and I am proud to say, “Hi, I’m Ann O’Brien, and I heal men.” In joy and gratitude for this opportunity and gift…
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HOW MUCH IS LOVE WORTH?
Submitted by admin on April 13, 2011 - 2:19 pm
One night, after dinner with a dear friend and her husband, she said, “Let’s tell stories.” Since she is an herbalist and seems to me a magician when it comes to anything connected with mother nature, I was shocked to hear what a terrible cook she was when they got married.
Coming from a family of good cooks, he really valued good food and did not want to prepare it.
So, they established a contest. He was looking for the “most improved cook” in their county and declared a $10,000 prize. Over the next year or 2, he judged the food and sure enough, she won, and he paid up.
“It was worth it,” he said. Later she joked that she also paid him in sex! Both of them seemed quite happy with this arrangement, not grasping out of need or controlling out of fear, but simply sharing what they each had to share and receiving in turn.
Another friend of mine has a business using her creative gifts to support the Divine feminine, and her husband is constantly posting on Facebook about all her successes. Beyond that, he often posts pictures and stories of practical things he does to support her business.
A client of mine had a breakthrough with her boyfriend. In the past few weeks since our previous session, she’d decided to claim her power in relationship with her boyfriend. This was not about power “over” him but instead about honoring herself and focusing on having a great life, rather than bending over backwards and then getting mad at him.
Suddenly, he changed to support her more, and she said she felt like she had him “on a leash.” I said something like, “Yes, you do. Now the trick is to use your power with love, for the good of all.” This is why most spiritual traditions teach ethics first!
The power of the feminine is unstoppable. Just imagine the amount of energy it takes to make a baby and we all have it!
Two areas the feminine excels in are the realms of emotion and energy. The masculine may give direction or structure but the feminine enlivens it with emotion and energy. This is what’s so attractive and powerful, but perhaps not as tangible.
Over history this feminine strength has been understood, and thus deeply feared and controlled. At the same time, due to the conflict between valuing and fearing it, it has been used rather than openly acknowledged.
All of this is changing now, and we can ride the new wave if we know how. The first step is to realize the power of our emotions and energy.
Daily I go out and overhear people complaining, venting and bonding over misery. While I believe it’s important to feel our feelings, I see that those who complain as a habit inevitably find they have more and more to complain about.
If you ever try affirmations you may notice they work when you feel them deeply, but not when you affirm you something you find boring. I’m totally domestic so I had an easy time manifesting a great house– which friends found miraculous, but when it comes to money for car repairs, forget it! -
No matter what you say or think you want, the Universe responds to your energetic broadcast. So, if you complain– and particularly if most everyone you’ve ever known complains as a means of connecting– you might deeply, unconsciously feel a need to complain as a matter of survival. Then the Universe responds and gives you problems- ugg!
This power in energy is part of the power of an intuitive reading or healing. I often meet clients with very articulate lists of questions or desires who need help shifting the toxic, hidden energies in their subconscious. Then, seemingly out of nowhere things manifest!
So how do you feel your true feelings yet refrain from complaining? Time and time again I see people creating (and convincing themselves they are victim to) drama after drama just so they can feel a (usually long-repressed) feeling and be free of it.
The trick is to actually fully feel, which may seem like a scary black hole but in truth often frees us from the feeling in a very short time. In doing so we can avoid years or lifetimes of repeated dramas due to feelings repressed.
Our culture has agreed to repress feelings due to their power, but again the era of that is ending. And here is one extra bonus in doing this…
The most powerful feeling is not dissatisfaction, anger, fear, or anything else except… LOVE. So one loving thought will make up for a thousand complaints.
Ahhhh. None of us are perfect. But when we choose love, the Universe chooses us.
This is why one woman mastered cooking and sex and was supported for it. Another started a business and was supported for it. Another learned self-care in relationship and was supported for it.
What do you love, and what would you love to share? I dare you to offer it up and see how the Universe responds.
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IF YOU WANT TO BE TAKEN BY LOVE…
Submitted by admin on March 31, 2011 - 8:06 am
| I have so been loving helping my ladies with relationships! And some men. And here is one great thing I have learned:
If you want to be taken by a man, be taken by God. If you want to take a woman, take God. I realize some of you may not like the word God, so you could just as well substitute the word “love.” Some of you may be in same-sex relationships or you may choose to reverse traditional gender roles, in which case just substitute “man” or “woman” as you like. No matter what style of relationship you prefer these principles can apply. So what might it mean to be taken by God? I will start with what I don’t mean, and ladies you can tell me if any of this sounds familiar…
Guess what? Men are attracted to women who are open, expressive and receptive. Guess what else? Men do appreciate when we’re open and receptive to them, but even better is that we’re open and receptive to life (and when we’re doing that it’s easy to be open to any one person anyway). A woman whose life is full of wonder and adventure, who feels fully, is very attractive. A woman devoted to the God in her own heart, to love and to faith in something bigger than life’s little details has an easy time surrendering in love and attracting someone worthy of that surrender. Guess what else? What the masculine most desires is not shiny hair or perky breasts or a great cook. It’s freedom. Which is why lots of women try so hard on the external level and wonder why they still can’t keep a man. Which is why when we focus more on devotion to love itself, a specific man has more space to come forward than when we focus on him or our expectations specifically. Yes, the external is important, but when a man feels our internal freedom, on some level he feels his own and he deeply relaxes. When he is not penned in, he wants to enter! So men, what does it mean by “If you want to take a woman, take God”? As I mentioned, you could replace “God” with “love”… or even, in this case, with “life.” If you are afraid of life you’ll be afraid of women, and they’ll be turned off by you. By living as if you might die tomorrow, you’ll realize what really matters and live your truth with courage. No woman would scare you, and they would find you irresistible! Have you noticed that women love successful men? Men that go for their goals no matter what? It’s not just about the money. Women love men that are fearlessly living their heart’s purpose, who are centered and in their power. Because when men are strong inside, even if they don’t always do what we want, we can really relax. Ahh! So, men who bend over backwards to please women, please think again! There is a little yin in the yang and yang in the yin, so you can follow all the “Rules” about being feminine or masculine and still miss something. For women, that something is having your internal freedom even while you are feminine on the outside. For men, the secret is internal sensitivity. With enough sensitivity you can feel just what your woman needs and give her that in a masculine way. Otherwise you could be the strongest man and she’d be too irritated at your cluelessness to appreciate it. For men and women alike, the key is in the heart, in love. Letting love lead no matter what. For the feminine, letting love lead looks more like surrender, openness and vulnerability– with just enough discernment to choose what to open to. The Divine masculine feels into the heart (his and others’) and then acts fearlessly from inner strength. The reason love feels so good is that we come together as two and remember the oneness we’ve been all along. If we were all the same, we might never be attracted enough to realize this, and that’s the fun of it! On the other hand, if we forgot love, we’d just be needy people drugging ourselves with externally-fulfilling relationships. Let me know if I can help you sort out what’s going on in your relationships, or just discover how to live a life of greater love! I am excited at the evolution going on now for so many, and I am picturing a happy world of happy lovers! |
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SPRING HEALTH TIPS
Submitted by admin on - 7:57 am
| As spring approaches, we look forward to new beginnings and are reminded that before a birth happens, we need to cleanse and make space.
We may have a week of warmth and sun followed by another snowstorm, so along with our enthusiasm this is also a time to be gentle and patient! In Ayurveda, a mind-body health system from India, this time of year is considered to be “kapha” season. Kapha, one of the 3 primary mind-body types is associated with sweet, cool, moist energy. Kapha people tend to be solid and loving and they hold on to things– mentally, emotionally, & physically. Some of us are naturally more kapha-like than others, but to some degree for each of us we can balance the kapha-dominance in our environment using foods and lifestyle choices. As this is often a wet, cool time of year where we feel the stagnation before the blooms of spring, we can support ourselves with foods and activities that are dry, warm, light, and energizing. Some of the best foods at this time are bitter greens, and this is also a great time to undergo a cleanse. Greens (in food or supplement form) particularly support the liver, one of our primary organs of detoxification. See the “Ann Recommends” section below for supplement suggestions. Let the warmer weather inspire you to get out and exercise to burn off the toxins and sluggishness of winter! Active, vigorous exercise is great for most of us at this time! Along with physical cleansing, detox your emotions by searching your heart of any unforgiveness and let it go. Support your mind by writing down your fears and toxic beliefs, and turn each one into a positive affirmation which you can say, read &/ or listen to regularly! Just as the deeper we exhale, the more room we have to fill ourselves with breath, the deeper we let go now the greater the payoff! Emptiness and fullness are one dancing as two. Blessings on your release and rebirth! _______________________________________________________________ Want to use this article in your E-Zine or Web Site? You can, as long as you use this complete tag with it: Intuitive Healer Ann O’Brien publishes the “Flowering Sol” newsletter to help you blossom into your light. If you’re ready to open up your intuition and creative power to fulfil your dream life, get your free gifts at www.FloweringSol.com _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ copyright 2011 Ann O’Brien- All Rights Reserved. |
Honoring Ancestors & Creating Anew
Submitted by admin on March 13, 2011 - 3:52 pm
A client asked me why, ever since she’d gotten engaged, she’d been sick. While she was excited for her future, she also felt overwhelmed and was even contemplating pushing back her wedding date.
I saw babies in her future, but I also saw a TON of energy from her ancestors and lineage. Suddenly, they had all descended with the best information they had for her about how to be a woman.
“You have to be passive and follow the man or you’ll die. But if you do, you’ll die,” they implored. They meant to help based on what they’d experienced in their lives, but times have changed! All those heavy mixed messages would be enough to make anyone sick!!
In helping this woman with her health, I moved those energies out to make space for her present-time truth, but I also saw something very interesting. Her body wanted the traditional foods that her ancestors ate. This was a way to honor and make peace with them, easing her way and making space for her to create her own life.
Most of us have our version of this. It’s easy to get stuck when our early memories of love and support also include programming that doesn’t serve our present-time life. As much as we want to move forward, our genetics and subconscious like to scream, “No, don’t, you’ll die! You’ll be alone!”
So, once these patterns surface, many people on the path of personal growth want to push their ancestors away and reject them. But there is the saying, “What you resist, persists,” and truly the best way to find your space is to give others space, too. For example, one of my clients wanted nothing to do with her addict-mother, but then chose to find just one thing she appreciated about her and began to feel much at peace with their relationship.
While the ego may not want to admit it, it takes way more effort to complain and blame others than it does to just change ourselves. And when we do, it gives everyone else permission to, also!
Besides, family patterns are NEVER about one person or one relationship. In helping one of my clients with his mother, I tuned in to her energy and realized she was overshadowed by her father, who was overshadowed by his mother, and this went on and on down the line (for many of them, long after death). Everyone was suffering! No one was really holding their own power. No one knew any different.
It would be exhausting to “fix” everyone one-by-one, but by simply changing ourselves we can break the chain. We CAN in addition pray for the whole line to be forgiven and forgive everyone, including themselves, and that they each return to the peace of their true selves.
The more we honor our lineage, the more they loosen any fearful holding and the more we can create free. For now is surely the time to do so! Bless us all!
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BABY BEINGS ~ ARE THEY AROUND YOU?
Submitted by admin on February 24, 2011 - 10:05 am
It all starts with a twitchy eye… Well, that’s what we were taught in psychic school– that twitchy eyes meant baby spirits and sneezing indicated “sex pictures”. You can imagine somebody sneezing in the middle of meditation class and all of us breaking out giggling!
Have you ever sensed the presence of baby spirits? Here are some ways to tell if they’re around:
- dreaming or seeing visions of children
- seeing or hearing a certain name pop up everywhere
- stronger than usual sex drive or moodiness, especially at certain times of the month!
- increase in creative or kundalini energy
- desire to pull in and nest
Baby spirits are crafty! They have been known to break condoms, arrange promotions and raises for their soon-to-be parents, and even bring partners together. One woman I know had a twitchy eye every time she logged onto an online dating site!
If you have baby spirits around, know this– you still get to choose how and if you relate with them. Probably, if they’re nearby you have a psychic agreement of some sort, and these can be reviewed and re-negotiated at any time.
You can learn to “read” these agreements, update them, and communicate with your potential children! This is part of what we are going to do in the Calling in Your Baby class.
We will be asking questions like “What is your name?,” “Why did you choose me?” and “What are you coming to learn and to share?”
Honing your skills of communication with your prospective child can help in two ways: 1). You will understand how to best support your incoming child, and 2). You’ll have a head’s up about what you’re in for - so that you can approach this new relationship in a way that also best supports YOU.
Babies come with miracle energy! And miracles come out of the greatest love there is… love between partners, love between parents and incoming children, and the childrens’ pure love– the love we all are and that most of us have to some degree forgotten.
So when baby spirits are near, they bring a sense of infinite possibility. They bring money, abundance, and set up the circumstances to have what they need in life.
Prospective mothers, you can learn to relax and tap into this miracle energy! Your female creative energy is the greatest force on earth and you can learn to best use it for the good of all. Sound like fun?
If so, you can learn more about “Calling In Your Baby” here. Take advantage of the early bird special until 2/26, or set up 3 easy payments if you’d like to spread it out! It starts next Thursday 3/3.
If this is not for you, I appreciate your sharing this with any women who might enjoy it. I am envisioning a world full of blissful mothers and deeply supported children!
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SPECIAL HEALING FOODS and EMOTIONAL REMEDIES
Submitted by admin on January 27, 2011 - 7:41 pm
I’m fascinated with the special healing properties of various foods and with the connection between health conditions and emotions, so I thought I’d write up some quick tips to assist you or your loved ones with any of these conditions.
Please trust your own intuition as you consider these suggestions, and know there are no one-size-fits all answers. I don’t diagnose or claim to cure anything and suggest consulting a professional for customized advice. To your radiance!!
Thyroid conditions- I see these so often in women and the #1 reason I see is that it’s time for women to speak up!! Not in some aggressive, trying-to-be-like-men way, but as our authentic, vulnerable and powerful selves. Create and express your feelings!
Special healing foods: sea vegetables (good to eat daily), seafood, eggs, coconut. And for many these foods disrupt the thyroid: all soy foods and cruciferous vegetables (especially raw).
Other notes: Often thyroid problems stem from adrenal exhaustion. You can balance your adrenals with good quality sea salt like celtic or himalayan, and by managing your stress!
Heavy metal toxicity- Many of us have or have had this, especially if you’ve had mercury dental fillings, or been exposed to cigarette smoke or lots of car exhaust (both contain lead).
Special healing foods: Sea vegetables, cilantro, chlorella, spirulina, greens powder supplements, purple cabbage (lead), green beans.
Other notes: Heavy metals seem to go hand-in-hand with “heavy” emotions. For example, I personally noticed that as I was clearing out mercury I was also facing fear, and while releasing lead I also released judgement. Who knows what causes what, but it’s helpful to see and shift things from multiple angles!
Parasites- My personal belief is that these are also much more common than we realize. Especially possible if you’ve traveled to 3rd world countries, eaten raw fish, or had diarrhea or digestive issues.
Special healing foods: Pumpkin seeds, figs, coconut, food-grade lemongrass oil, raw garlic, apple cider vinegar.
Other notes: Physical parasites can be indicators that your psychic boundaries are weak. Clearing them may provoke you to take a look at who may be “feeding off” your energy in ways that don’t serve you.
Candida/ fungus/ mold- Mass addiction to sugar is culturally condoned and can lead to many problems including fungal infections. Other causes include environmental exposure to mold, for instance if you’ve ever had water leaks in your home. Some say stored grains are an epidemic source of fungus, so for prevention it’s best to store them in the fridge if you do eat them!
Special healing foods, herbs and oils: Grapefruit seed extract, coconut, raw garlic, fermented foods/ probiotics, chamomile, frankincense (rub on belly!) Avoid sugar of all types (read labels), most or all fruits especially dried fruits, bread and all refined flours. Eat food as fresh as possible, minimizing or eliminating leftovers (best to freeze them if eating them at all).
Other notes: Fungus wants to stay alive and so will cause you to crave sugar and foods that feed it! Killing it off requires fortitude and willingness to go through the discomfort of something “dying” inside you. Something is dying, but YOU are becoming stronger.
Bonus tip for every kitchen: Pre-soak whole grains overnight before cooking (or sprouting) in an acidic medium such as apple cider vinegar or lemon juice, presoak beans overnight in kombu (seaweed), and presoak nuts 6-8 hours in filtered water with salt. This will increase the nutrients available in your foods and make them more digestible!
Wondering what emotions might be keeping you from radiant health, or what foods would most support you? Go here for a special deal on a customized health and nutrition reading– just until 1/31/11!
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WHY YOUR HEALTH & RELATIONSHIPS ARE ONE
Submitted by admin on January 23, 2011 - 10:49 am
There’s a reason why my friend, raw foodist Chef BeLive calls his e-book “Orgasm of the Taste Buds”. When the food we eat is filled with light or life force, so are we! And our life force is the same as our sexual energy, or the creative energy we use to manifest anything in our lives!
Not that you have to eat all raw food (I don’t!) But there is something about living raw, which transcends diet to living fully and authentically and passionately, that really appeals to me.
And I see that most dis-ease in the body happens when our life force gets stopped. This, as I see, has to happen before something “happens to us” (i.e. before we catch a cold or get a disease.
Even scientists will say that there are bacteria, viruses, parasites, etc. all over the place, but they only thrive in certain conditions. And besides these usual suspects which “cause” health issues, today most people are also exposed to tons of chemicals, heavy metals, radiation, and other toxins– most of which are due to living a very un-natural life!
While most of us can’t live in today’s world without at least some exposure to these things, we absolutely CAN live with more vitality and authenticity. We can’t control external influences, or even our bodies, but we CAN control our relationship to them.
And as you may have noticed in your personal relationships or those of your loved ones, trying to control things never works, but changing yourself and your attitude can bring miracles! Ignoring those we’re in relationship to doesn’t work either.
But we can learn to dance. Beginning with listening to our feelings moment-by-moment and moving with them (whether literally dancing or not), we end up in a great place to dance with another, or simply to live peacefully in our bodies.
When I observe people’s relationships, I see so many half-in half-out. There’s another body nearby but each person is in their own little world.
And the sad part to me is that our society accepts this. People think, “This is as good as it gets.”
All it would take for a couple, for instance, is to lie together and breathe for 5 minutes and BOOM- deep connection- but instead people rush around in preoccupation and complain later about the other.
When I read people’s bodies and health, I see something similar…
The liver is manic because it’s overloaded and no one is listening so it gets more manic. The brain is operating off old programs that lead nowhere and aren’t true, but the person confuses these patterns with real feelings and chases them attempting to survive. A woman’s hormones take over her entire being and she can’t make wise decisions about relationships.
It amazes me that our society thinks things like headaches, constipation, and PMS are normal. I am shocked to witness how many people are on prescription drugs– often many and at a young age.
While these symptoms are common in today’s world, they are not “normal” but are our bodies way of communicating a disharmony. While drugs have their place, I feel the mass reliance on them would not be necessary if we simply communicated with our bodies and chose a healthy diet, lifestyle and relationship with ourselves and others.
People say they don’t know how to do that but I believe we do know.
If we’ve only been exposed to processed food, of course, there may be some education needed to realize the benefits of other options. But in terms of what feels good and bad to our bodies and relationships, if we only pause and listen it’s pretty obvious what works and what doesn’t.
You don’t have to have the final answer to start a conversation. Your answer may not match up with anyone else’s, nor with anything you’ve been taught or shown, and there are no tests and no grades.
But you do know. Ask yourself…
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Intuitive Healer Ann O’Brien publishes the “Flowering Sol” email newsletter to help you blossom into your light. If you’re ready to open up your intuition and creative power to fulfill your dream life, get your free gifts at www.FloweringSol.com.
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